I recently went on a first date. At the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers, and he said he would call me. It's been four days and he hasn't called. Should I text him? - Blown Off

I recently went on a first date. At the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers, and he said he would call me. It's been four days and he hasn't called. Should I text him? - Blown Off

Dear Blown Off,

Step away from the phone, my friend! Texting him at this point only makes you appear desperate. Recognize that first dates are fact-finding missions where you explore the potential for a second date. Unfortunately, some singles need a refresher course on the do's and don'ts of dating! (Guys, statistics show women like contact in 24 hours, and definitely don't wait more than three days if you are interested.)

I truly sympathize and recognize that you are searching for a love connection. Too often singles find themselves exchanging phone numbers when this connection isn't mutually felt, and that creates false hope and insinuates interest or pursuit for the next date. The intent is to spare hurt feelings and embarrassment, but in actuality it creates confusion.

As the owner of an introduction service, I answer similar questions from my clients on a weekly basis - so trust me, you aren't alone. Most commonly I hear, "How many days should I wait to call? Is it best to text or call? How long should I wait to return their call/text?"

I counsel my clients to not play games, and to be honest and keep it simple. I advise that the trick to averting the awkwardness of the "next step" at the end of a date is creating proper upfront expectations. If you feel a tinge of chemistry and want to go on a second date, speak up while it is within the context of the date! For instance if your new friend likes to golf, ask him if he would meet you at the driving range! On the other hand, if there is no chemistry or desire to see them again, do not exchange phone numbers. It is OK to part ways as friends on a first date. It is not OK to waste someone's time.

Despite the fact that he said he would call, in reality he didn't. I would consider it a blessing in disguise. His loss is another guy's opportunity! As a final thought, one piece of advice I always give my friends and clients: If someone really wants to see you again, he will. Period.