I am renting a houseboat with 12 of my friends at Lake Cumberland for the Fourth of July weekend. One of the girls going flirts with me a lot, and I get the feeling we will be coupled up on the trip. I am attracted to her but not interested in anything serious. If we hook up on the trip, do I need to tell her that's all it is or just go with the flow? -Dan
I am renting a houseboat with 12 of my friends at Lake Cumberland for the Fourth of July weekend. One of the girls going flirts with me a lot, and I get the feeling we will be coupled up on the trip. I am attracted to her but not interested in anything serious. If we hook up on the trip, do I need to tell her thatís all it is or just go with the flow? óDan
Donít overanalyze or create a contract of expectations! This sounds like a fun summer trip with friends ó itís not like you invited her to be your date to a destination wedding where youíll share a hotel room for three days.
There should be no expectations but fun in the sun. As long as neither of you are in serious relationships with anyone, thereís nothing wrong with a summer fling. Sure, the waters could be muddied if this turns into more than harmless flirting or hooking up and she develops feelings on the trip. But thatís out of your control. Go there with the intention of having fun and keeping things light ó just be cautious of spending too much time together. After all, this is a fun trip with friends, not an opportunity to create unnecessary drama with a girl. Be safe, be honest, keep things simple, have fun ó no explanation needed.
I went on one date with a guy. He seemed nice enough on the date until he started texting me incessantly afterward. He compliments me and then says Iím too good for him. He is friends with some of my friends so I know he isnít a complete lunatic. Heís just annoying the hell out of me. I have been ignoring his texts, but now he is suggesting I call him to explain why I am ignoring him. This is ridiculous. How do I get rid of this guy? óGina
As weird and over-the-top as this guy may appear, it is absolutely something we can all learn from in this wild world of dating. (On a lighter note, you can officially add ďcrazy stalker-guyĒ to your dating horror stories.)
This guy has some major insecurity ó and that really isnít your problem. Even worse, he is completely overzealous. Itís safe to assume he had these issues well before you and will probably have them long after you. After going on one date, you donít need to know his last name or where he lives yet, let alone feel the responsibility to let him down easy. Bottom line: You donít need to justify your actions.
But, because ignoring him isnít working, I suggest texting him back and kindly asking that he stop contacting you. If he gets in touch again, trust your instincts and proceed with caution.
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