Q&A: Lion’s Den sexpert Jamie Cooper

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From the February 14, 2013 edition

Like the Ladies Man, Jaime Cooper is here with “all the right responses to your romantic queries,” except she’s not a fictional character and obviously not a man. Cooper is the resident sexpert at Lion’s Den, where she’s ready and willing to help any and all —singles, couples, the experienced, the shy.

The Columbus-based adult store recently underwent an effort to retool its brand and be more accessible to women and couples. Cooper is a major part of that process. She offers advice on her blog, sexytime.lionsden.com, and will begin holding in-store discussions and events soon — all designed to help people have better sex.

We’re attempting to really get people involved in having a better sex life. It’s been such a taboo subject for such a long time, but young people are much more open that I think it’s changing.

We’re really trying to make the Lion’s Den more approachable to women, and that’s where I come in. Girls tend to talk about a lot of things with their girlfriends, so that’s what we want this to be. Girlfriends discussing what we do or don’t do, like or don’t like.

I think just being the person who says, “Yes, I use these. Or yes, I do that — it’s fun,” really helps. Having that personal connection absolutely makes it less intimidating.

Lion’s Den is also a place for couples. Just look at all the stuff in here. There is porn in here, but there are just so many items available that someone who doesn’t have a very good sex life — that’s crazy. There’s just so much that’s available for any taste, any lifestyle. Why not? What have you got to lose? I’d rather be happy and having fun.

This is not a big deal, it’s just sex. I talk about things that me and my partner do, or things that I’ve used or done in my life. My minor in college was sexuality studies so I’ve always worked in the area of sexuality. I’ve taught sex education. It’s something that is just kind of second nature to me. I’m pretty open to anything and everything and [sexuality is] something I’m perfectly comfortable with. I’m the one who’s trying it all, I guess.

The blog is the big deal right now. I discuss a wide range of topics, like sexting. We’re always told, “Don’t do it, don’t do it.” But if you’re in a safe relationship [sexting] is perfectly normal and safe to do. I’ve discussed ways to improve your sex life and sex toys. We also have some events coming up — our Ladies Nights in the store where I’ll be in attendance. We will discuss different things and sample things. Men are more than welcome to come as well. It’s predominantly women and that’s our focus, but the whole goal is to get everyone opening up about their sex life.

If you like toys, buy toys. If you’re trying to break in to that, start with something small, or some lotion, or lingerie. Sex toys, just find one and try it. See what happens.

One general thing I always find that helps, and I’m even guilty of this myself, is really making yourself vulnerable. It’s a really difficult position to put yourself in — especially when you’re in a long-term relationship and you tend to get a little jaded — but making yourself vulnerable again like when you’re first in a relationship and everything is exciting, says a lot. Doing something that might be outside the box or outside your comfort zone can go a long way to spice up your sex life. Vulnerability and communication go hand-in-hand. If you have really good communication you can be vulnerable.